The Marriage Transformation Podcast
The Marriage Transformation Podcast
How God Defeated The Giants My Marriage
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Ever wonder if facing giants in your marriage might actually mean you're on the right path? Join us as we unpack this idea, and I'll share my own struggle with alcohol and the powerful role faith played in overcoming it. By diving into the biblical narrative of the 12 spies in the Promised Land, we explore how encountering giants like financial hardship, sexual addiction, or infidelity can be a sign that you're on the verge of something great. Just as Joshua and Caleb adopted a mindset of victory despite seeing the giants, you too can find strength and hope to conquer your marital challenges.
We'll also discuss how stories of faith from the Bible, like David defeating Goliath and the Israelites' triumph over Jericho, hold incredible lessons for our relationships today. The key lies in faith and obedience—trusting in God's promises and taking the first steps He asks of us. By surrendering your marriage to God and following His guidance, healing and restoration are not just possible; they're promised. Be sure to subscribe, leave a comment, and explore the resources linked for additional support on your journey to a stronger, more faith-filled marriage.
Hey, cody here, and the title of this video is how God destroyed the giants in my marriage. So I'm guessing if you're here watching this video right now, you've got a few giants in your marriage that you need to do battle with, and if that's you, you're absolutely in the right place. Hey, my name is Cody Butler and I'm the founder of Better Marriage, and the reason I help people with their marriages these days is because it was an area that I really struggled with so much for so long. Relationships was absolutely not my strong suit and there were many, many giants in my marriage. The main giant for me was alcohol and how to overcome alcohol. It was a giant, but for you it might be something else. It might be finances, it might be porn, it might be sexual addiction, it might be adultery and affairs something like that. It doesn't matter. There are going to be giants that seem like they are in defeatable undefeatable within your marriage. But I'm here to tell you god can and will and wants to defeat those giants, and I'm going to share with you today. So the first thing to understand really is, when you see giants in your marriage, not to despair. This was one of the things that really kept me going throughout all of the darkest days was that when God gave the promised land to the children of Israel, he promised them a land flowing with milk and honey. And when the spies went into the land 12 spies went into the land 10 of them came back and said there are giants in the land. There are giants in the land. Now here's the first thing to take. If there are giants in the land, here's the first thing to take. If there are giants in the land, it means you in the right place. The promised land had giants in it. The land flow with milk and honey. Had John's in it.
Speaker 0:Now your marriage, the dream marriage, my dream marriage was a land flowing with milk and honey. God promised me a land flowing with milk and her honey, but when I actually showed up and looked into the land of marriage, I could see that it was full of giants. Now here's the thing when you see giants in your marriage, rejoice and give praise, because it means that you are looking in the right place. It means you are looking at the promised land. If you are looking at a marriage and it is without problems, it is without challenges, then it's because you're not looking at the promised land. You are not looking at the marriage God has given you. God has given you a promised land and the biblical example is there are giants in those land.
Speaker 0:Now, if you remember, there were 12 spies went to spy out, went to check out the promised land, 10 plus Caleb and Jacob. Now the 10 came back and gave a report. If there are giants in the land, it's too big, they're too big, we can't do this, we can't defeat them. There were two that came back and said there are giants in the land, but we can do this, we can take this land, and that was Joshua and Caleb. Now think back, think in your life, how many kids are named after the 10 spies that said there were giants in the land and we can't do this? Can you name any of those 10? Now, those 10 are named in the Bible, but only two came back with a positive report saying, even though there are giants, we can do this, we can take this land, and they're probably two of the most popular names in the world, at least the Western world right now. The other 10 names have been forgotten to history, even though they're recorded. They've been predominantly forgotten by history. How many of those 10 people can you name? So history forgets and this is the archetype, right? This is what we take from the story. History forgets those who look at the promised land that god has given and sees giants, and sees a land that is untakable, a land that cannot be tamed, a land that cannot be moved into. The two that came back with the positive rapport. History has recorded their name and many, many, many, many, many, many people have been named after those two.
Speaker 0:Now, that's the first thing that I did was I decided that I was going to be a joshua. I decided that I was going to be a caleb within my marriage and look at the promised land. God gave me this marriage, but it wasn't without problems that I was determined that I was going to look at that marriage and I was going to see the land flowing with milk and honey and I was not going to allow the giants that were in that land. Now we're talking about marriage here, but maybe any aspect of your life, when you see giants in any aspect of your life could be your finances, could be your health, could be your relationship with your children, could be your children's health. Again, don't despair if you are seeing giants in the land. It means that you're in the right place. It means you are looking at the promised land god has given you.
Speaker 0:God did not give his people a land that was without challenge. He did not give his land, his people, a land that was without difficulty. That is part of the promise, because it's about who we have to become. Those giants are there to refine us, to make us bigger, to make us better, to make us stronger. What we need to become powerful, what we need to be to become an overcomer, what we need to become victorious and what God needs in order for us to show his glory through us and through our marriage is a giant. David could not have shown the glory of God if he was bigger than Goliath. It took Goliath in order for God to for David to reveal the glory of God through Goliath. And the same is true with your marriage. Right now, you have to adopt the attitude that the giants are there, that you may reveal the glory of God through your marriage, and don't despair. Understand that you're in the right place and it's not time to give up Now. The second thing to understand that really helped me was that you're in the right place and it's not time to give up Now. The second thing to understand that really helped me was that you don't know. God is not going to tell you how he's going to bring you into the promised land, the promised land being your marriage and the things that he tells you that you need to do, we just need to be obedient to. We don't need to question.
Speaker 0:Now, when we look at coming out of slavery into the promised land, into the wilderness and then into the Promised Land, it was full of deliverance in the most unexpected ways. When the Israelites, when 6 million Israelites, were at the Red Sea and they could literally see the dust of the chariots. When the Red Sea closed, it consumed the entire Egyptian army. They must have been within eyesight. They must have been so close, probably within arrow range of the Israelites, when the Red Sea closed upon them. Catastrophe was absolutely upon them and the way that God delivered those Israelites was the most unexpected way, even the tool that he used, even the person that he used to bring them deliverance. Moses was not told what was going to happen. He said to Moses go up to the Red Sea and plant your staff in the sea. And the Red Sea parted. He didn't say when you do that, the sea will part. He just told Moses what to do. Moses was obedient and then the sea parted and the deliverance from the Egyptian army and certain death and destruction was brought about. Now that Egyptian army is upon you, and your marriage as well, I know it seems right now, and it seems like with me, that certain destruction was right upon me, but God is faithful and he will provide a way out.
Speaker 0:Let's look at the giants within the land. Even after Caleb and Joshua came back with the reports of giants, they still had to get through Jericho, the impenetrable walls of the fortress of Jericho. Now, how are they going to do that? How are they going to defeat these impenetrable walls? Well, again, god gave them a way where there was no way. God made a way where there was no way, and the way he made that way was completely unexpected. It was completely unforeseen March around the city every day at seven o'clock for one hour and then, on the seventh day, blow your trumpets. Now, I'm not a biblical scholar, I'm just a lay person, but I may be getting the story slightly wrong here, but how many of those six million Israelites that were looking at Jericho as being the obstacle standing between them and the promised land, could have possibly imagined that that's how the wars of Jericho were gonna fall? How many possibly could have, in their own strength, seen that? How many of them, even how many even knew that that was going to happen or had the faith and belief that that was going to happen, until those they blew those trumpets and those walls fell down?
Speaker 0:Now this is how God saved my marriage destroys the giants and the strongholds within your marriage and within your health and with your life. He's going to do it in unexpected ways, in ways that only he can do it and ways that unquestionably bring him the glory now in our own human strength. In my marriage, I wanted God to show me how he was going to deliver me from the giants. I wanted him to show me how he was going to deliver me from the oppression or from the slavery, and God just wanted me to trust him. God just wanted me to have me, how he was going to deliver me from the oppression and from the slavery, and God just wanted me to trust him. God just wanted me to have faith. Now, I don't know how God is going to deliver you. All I know is that he wants to and he will. I don't know how God is going to defeat the giant in your marriage. How he defeated them in my marriage is going to be completely different to how he defeated them or how he's going to defeat them in your marriage, but is going to be completely different to how he defeated them or how he's going to defeat them in your marriage. But here's what I can tell you he is going to defeat them as long as you hold the faith, as long as you hold the path, as long as you keep that belief. And when you see giants in the land, you've got to rejoice, you've got to give praise and you've got to go praise God, I'm in the right place, although this marriage is difficult right now. I know these giants are here, because there are giants in the land, but this is the land of milk and honey and I know that you're faithful enough, true and just enough to take these giants. I know I can't defeat these giants by myself, but I know you can.
Speaker 0:David did not defeat Goliath by himself. He defeated Goliath through the will of God and through the actions of God. He was merely the vessel that did that. It was God that did that, and that is exactly what's going to happen in your marriage, brother, and that's exactly what's going to happen in your marriage, sister. It's only God that can save your marriage, and God is willing to save your marriage. He wants to save your marriage, but you've got to give your marriage to him and you've got to be obedient.
Speaker 0:The Israelites had to walk around the city of Jericho. God didn't just destroy the walls without any action. He gave instructions and those instructions had to be followed. He told Moses to reach out and stick his staff in the Red Sea before the Red Sea opened, bringing deliverance and salvation to the millions and millions of Israelites that are fleeing from slavery and from Egypt. But Moses had to be obedient. To do that, moses had to follow the instructions of God, and that is how God killed the giants in my marriage and destroyed the giants.
Speaker 0:He was the one that did it, but I had to be the one that was obedient and take the first steps, and I had to have the faith and I had to have the belief that he was faithful enough and true enough and just enough and that he was going to do it and he will do it in his time and he will do it on his schedule and he will do it when he it is right for him, so hopefully that helps. If you like this content, please subscribe to the channel. It really helps. Give us a thumbs up and leave a comment letting us know what you think about this, because it really really helps. And if you want some more free resources on how you can save your marriage, or if you want to talk to me about how I can work with you personally, check out the links in the description. Got a bunch of stuff down there that I think will be really, really helpful.