The Real Work With Cody Butler
This podcast is for men who want to lead their marriage with clarity, steadiness, and self-respect.
The conversations focus on what actually changes things at home: how you make decisions, how you handle pressure, and how you show up when it matters.
You’ll learn how to stop second-guessing yourself, reduce internal conflict, and lead your marriage in a way that feels calm, consistent, and sustainable, without losing strength, direction, or results in the rest of your life.
The Real Work With Cody Butler
Prioritizing Love: Navigating Marriage and Money Challenges
https://codybutlercoaching.com/marriage-crisis-navigation
Can money really be considered more important than the bonds we cherish most? We're flipping the script on conventional wisdom by exploring how the renewable nature of money contrasts starkly with the irreplaceable value of marriage. Our guest helps us unravel the unconscious financial habits that can jeopardize relationships, emphasizing the importance of intentional choices that prioritize love over material wealth. This discussion challenges the norm by questioning whether we should trade something as valuable as our marriage for the fleeting concerns of financial resources.
Join us as we dissect the deep-seated money programs inherited from various influences like family and society that often drive us toward destructive decisions. By fostering awareness, we can break free from these ingrained patterns and cultivate a more harmonious partnership, even amidst financial stress. The conversation moves beyond surface-level advice, urging listeners to become conscious of the real cost of prioritizing money over family, and to make deliberate decisions that honor the bonds that truly matter.
What advice do you have for couples on managing shared finances, settling joint goals and negativity through financial stress and the impact on their marriage? So my answer to that question is going to be perspective. So is money a renewable resource, yes or no? If you lose it, can you get it back? Yes, it's, money is a renewable resource. Is your marriage a renewable resource? No, it's not. If you lose it, it's gone. So, renewable resource. Is your marriage a renewable resource? No, it's not. If you lose it, it's gone.
Speaker 1:So do you want to trade a renewable resource for a non-renewable resource? Is that a good decision? Is is trading something that you can? If you lose everything, you can get it back. If you lose your family, you can't. It's done. So is trading something that's renewable and you can get back? Is it worth sacrificing something renewable and you can get back? Is it worth sacrificing something that you can't get back for that? And again, let's take it another layer deeper what's more important? You having the money or you having your family? Well, having the family, okay. So you're going to trade a renewable resource for a non-renewable resource and you're going to trade a priority for something that's not a priority.
Speaker 1:Do you see how flawed this is is where this is where this is the unconscious mind, right? It's like there's no consciousness in that decision. Are you conscious of the fact that you're trading something that you don't really care about that much for something that you really do? Are you conscious of that? Are you conscious that this is a cause and effect relationship? If you choose the non-renewable resource, you lose. Or if you choose the renewable resource, you lose the non-renewable one, which is more important to you? Are you aware that that's the effect of this cause? It comes back to that initial consciousness, right? It's like you're completely, if these money arguments are going on, you're completely unconscious in the moment. You're running your parents' money programs, or you're running society's money programs, or you're running your church's money programs, or you're running some money program that simply is not serving you right now, and you're running it from a place of a lack of consciousness that's causing you to make cause decisions that are going to produce effects that you're not going to want to deal with down the road.