The Real Work With Cody Butler
This podcast is for men who want to lead their marriage with clarity, steadiness, and self-respect.
The conversations focus on what actually changes things at home: how you make decisions, how you handle pressure, and how you show up when it matters.
You’ll learn how to stop second-guessing yourself, reduce internal conflict, and lead your marriage in a way that feels calm, consistent, and sustainable, without losing strength, direction, or results in the rest of your life.
The Real Work With Cody Butler
Discovering Fulfillment: Aligning Values and Actions for True Happiness
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Can men truly understand what they want in life? Explore this profound question with our insightful guest as we unravel the deeper journey of self-discovery and fulfillment. This episode promises to guide you through the process of aligning who you aspire to be with the universal game of cause and effect. We discuss the importance of embracing core values like honesty, confidence, and integrity, and how these principles naturally lead to the happiness we all seek. By shifting focus from outcomes to the processes that create them, you'll gain clarity and consciousness in navigating life’s challenges.
Throughout our conversation, we also highlight the transformative power of gratitude, servitude, and unconditional positive regard. Our guest shares valuable insights on how these attitudes can significantly influence your life's trajectory, creating a path filled with joy and satisfaction. Listen as we explore the orderly nature of the universe and how your actions and attitudes predictably shape your experiences. This episode is a treasure trove of wisdom, equipping you with the tools to embark on a rewarding journey towards true happiness and fulfillment.
How can men identify what they truly want in life? Like, what steps could they take? It really comes down to who do you want to be? It's not so much what do you want out of life? Like, what you want out of life is a byproduct. Again, that's an effect. Like, life is a game of cause and effect, and one of the things I like to say is you know, it's about process, not product. So a good example of that is if we, you know, if we want ice in our life, we have to understand the process of creating ice, and that is, you need water and you need a subzero environment. There's nothing you can do to create ice other than understand the process and then recreate that process. You don't. If you understand the process, you don't have to sit in front of your freezer at night going God, please, give me ice, please, I'm begging you. It's a foregone conclusion.
Speaker 1:Life, human beings and life and the universe is very orderly. It follows laws and rules and regulations and it is a game of cause and effect and a lot of times we choose, we chase effect without understanding the cause, and I can guarantee you, as a man or as a woman, everything you want. The cause of those effects are gonna be honesty, self-honesty, confidence, integrity, the ability to be truthful with yourself, the ability to have clarity, the ability to be conscious and understand that this is a game of cause and effect. Everything else is simply an effect, and there are certain core principles that we teach actually, that I teach that will give everybody, male or female, the result that they're looking for, because what you want is to be happy.
Speaker 1:I can tell you with assurity, everything that you're chasing leads to one path, and that's the path of happiness. That's what you're going after, and those, those, those elements are the causes that will unfailingly bring you to the effect that you're looking for. It's unconditional positive regard, it's an attitude of gratitude and it's the heart of the servant. When you approach life with gratitude, servitude and unconditional positive regard for it, it will respond positively to you. When your regard is very conditional or negative, when your heart is one of taking and your attitude is one of ingratitude, life will also respond to you in a way that's predictable, but it's not going to be the path that you want for sure.